Why Oral Sex?

At the very first place, let me just say oral sex is illegal in some jurisdiction. Some notable development would Indian Court had just recently declared its unconstitutional to ban gay sex (read SODOMY), while it is legal for consensual heterosexual oral sex in Singapore (previously illegal, though everyone is doing it), while in Malaysia, it is still illegal, and yes, i think everyone is doing it too.

However, oral sex is only illegal when performed on man, it is perfectly legal to perform it on a woman. Talk about gender equality.

Now, what so good about oral sex?

For a man, the feeling of his rod being sucked at like the most delicious candy is surely great. In anyway, there is a lot more thing you can do with your mouth than with your pussy. One can press all the sensitive point with her mouth, something a pussy can never do. And the thought of a girl willing to go down for you.

For a woman, i believe, the reason is the same, though finger might do a better job.

I think the best part of oral sex is the psychological aspect of it. The meaning of someone willing to go down to a place one would normally would not go with his/her mouth and tongue.

Afterall, sex is not so much on physical aspect but more on mental gratification. What is perceived sometimes works better than what is in reality, or at least in women's mind, it does.

Gender Equality

I remember one of my lecturer once said to the girls in the class "You and i are equal, i am not going to be nice to you".

Gender equality had always been something of contention in the battle of sexes. It just refused to go away after so many decades of activism.

Because the women had still yet to attain equality?

Maybe.

Because the women after attaining equality, but wanted an advantage, and hence protraying themselves as still not being equal?

Perhaps.

The men just equally resistant to the notion of a woman being equal?

Possibly.

Whatever the reason, the argument that DS is proposing is this;

"There can be no equality in true sense of word"

Before i got pelted with rotten eggs and tomatoes, allow me to say this.

1) DS agrees as far as human rights go, all human, whatever gender, race, religion, age, social status and whatever classification, shall have universally agreed human rights especially those enshrined in Universal Declaration of Human Rights, and they are inalienable.

2) DS agrees a women should be treated equally as a man as far as performance is concerned.

3) DS agrees luxuries of life are available to all humans who out to attain them by ethical means.

Now, why do DS says we cannot be equal since all of us should have the same human rights?

Simple. The fact that we are different.

Due to our differences, we have different need. WE have different preferences and different things turn us on.

For example, only a mother can have maternity leave.

Why can't man have the same length of maternity leave?

Because he doesn't bore the the child, nor does he goes to labour. He did not have to recuperate like a mother do. Etc. Etc. Granted, he might need to help out his wife, but surely, the amount of leave cannot be the same.

And of course, we cannot be equal in toilet, or we should be sharing toilets instead of having it separated by gender.

At the same time, DS had to say that even basic human rights for women still had some way to go. For example, there is still differences in wages though the work done is essentially the same, ceteris peribus, though the gap is getting smaller and in some profession, eliminated.

At the same breath, DS must also say women also had undue advantage due to their assertion of what they claim is women's rights. Family law is one of the best example and will remain unsolved for foreseeable future. Preference for certain gender in certain profession is another form of sexual discrimination, of which both genders are guilty for.

Now, DS do not want to write an essay or a thesis here, so i will make it short. The difference in needs is the stumbling block in the attainment of equality. This should not be frown upon but should be celebrated. The fact the we are different is what makes human genders and humanity, where one party is a male and another is a female. We can all work together and ensure no one have undue advantage over another just because of gender and at the same time, try to accomodate the differences we had.

This balancing act is indeed tough but by no means inattainable.

Forgive me if i said anything wrong and enlighthen me of your views..

I Had More Sex Than You Masturbate?

There was a radio program (for the uninitiated, radio is a machine, small one, that is used to transmit information, one way, only audio, no visual. you can say its a wireless device with only download and no upload, shit, i must be crazy thinking radio is such an outdated device that i need to explain it) this morning, the deejay asked the listeners (listening is the only thing a radio owner can do with his machine) their feeling about the phrase oft-used by older generation, "I ate salt more than you eat rice".

Which actually means the speaker had more experience than the listener, who must be a younger chap.

I never knew such a hyperbole actually generated much displeasure from the listener. Of course it is not a sexy moan like JL had, but surely, a little hyperbole don't kill, no?

One listener called in to retort "salt are eaten spoon by spoon (i think he meant cooking) while rice are eaten bowl by bowl. how could he possibly eat more salt than i do rice?"

Another said this "uncle, if you really eat more salt than i do rice, you must be having kidney problem for a long time ago that you will not be talking to me now (RestInPeace liao?)."

He also said the logical thing would be eat rice more than you do eat rice, walk more than you walk.

Come on lar, where is the omph?

DS today proudly propose a new and catchy phrase to totally replace the outdated, illogical, and much hated hyperbole with this one:

I HAD SEX MORE THAN YOU MASTURBATE

That goes on to show i am more "successful", so much so more than you had to do yourself.

Certainly put the listener down, IQ, EQ and sexually.

Come on everybody, after me, "I HAD SEX MORE THAN YOU MASTURBATE!!!!"

Men's Feeling

Women tends to just bitch their heart out, while men just bottle them up.

Bad for heart, will get too stressed, then heart attack, those guys i mean.

Even in a relationship, DarkSnow will also just keep quiet, perhaps hoping that it will go away that way, or perhaps just doesn't want to talk about it.

But even DS does not know why, nor he knows how. DS sometimes wanted to cry, just why can't she understand? Just why can't she just treat me nice? Just why can't she just keep her temper? Just why can't she just be a good girl and not throwing tantrum at every moment, right and wrong?

Gals will defend gals and guys will defend guys but this is not the kind of reasoning i want. The kind that just normally thrown out across gender lines.

DS wanted something that cut across gender line, to give an unbias appreciation as to why, these two types of homo sapiens, are so different that as they became more sophisticated, the differene became more pronounce and we just thought, well, maybe its best that we just keep at arms length, but at the same time, wanted to get closer.

i am very sad and confuse now. i just got my brain screwed.

Sometimes, Sex Scene Just Ruin It

First of all, i got nothing against having sex scene in a movie or music video or work of art. In fact, if it adds value to the art, it must be encouraged. For example, sex to show deep emotional attachment, to show human frailty, to even show humanity, and these should be encouraged and celebrated. Afterall, haven't we just done it all?

But sometimes, some directors just seems to be seeking some cheap thrill, adding sex scene just because they can, without bothering if it compatible with their work at all.

For example, this;



I had nothing against the sex scene somewhere in the middle of the MV. To tell a story in 4-5 minutes is a great challenge and using sex to portray deep emotional attachment is all right, though not creative.

But i have a great problem with the girl stripping for the two guys in the beginning of the MV. What the fuck? What does it try to tell? Great friendship between the three?

That is seriously a big big cheap thrill.

And consider this;



Shit! Is this a soft core porn or an MV? It did absolutely no justice to the vocal prowess of the singer. Just what does two people going to hotel to get some sex gotta do with the message of the song?

Now, to show how it is done, let us see my idol David Tao's MV;



It shows very little flesh, but essentially capturing all sexual tension between the three main characters. The loneliness and emotional breakdown of the innocent wife cleverly portrayed. The conflicting and suicidal emotion of the vivacious "other woman" due to the love triangle can really make you feel for her. And the adulterer David Tao, well, he better off going back singing.

My point is, to use sex, the best is to use it subtly, seemlessly, and the most importantly, is to do so with a purpose, or the sex will just ruin the whole thing.

What do you think? You have any other videos that uses sex?

Men Unable to Express Emotions?

We often hear, couple complaining they are not communicating enough.

More often girls though. The guys seems to be having a big problem opening their mouth. Sad.

But just, why?

Guys are having a hard time opening themselves up. They cannot bitch their heart out. They cannot cry. They cannot even express how they feel.

Ego? Maybe.

Or maybe it is due to upbringing. They are told to literally "take it like a man". They are told that expressing how they feel is sissy. And tears, well, that is just a sin.

In short, they are being told, from young, being a man means emotions are to be discarded.

How to communicate with them? How to loosen them out? How to get into their inner world?

No, i am not talking about sex again, though it might helps.

Seriously, i do not know how. But once you get them to talk, it is really heart wrenching. Suddenly, the bright smiles seems to bitter, hiding all the pain inside.

But talk it slowly. They will talk, eventually, when they are loosen enough. But brace yourself for it, it may not be pretty, for you or him.