Now no one will doubt that it is very important to find a life partner who is sexually compatible, and when i say sexually compatible, i meant in term of sex drive, sex behavior, sexual creativity, and preference.
A lady with high sex drive can hardly compatible with a gentleman with low libido. Likewise, persons who like SM cannot exactly fulfill themselves with persons who can only accept vanilla sex. Further example would include oral sex (to a lesser extent), rough sex, etc.
I think we all can accept that sexual compatibility is very important. And i remember i advocated trying out to see if your sexuality is compatible with your partner.
But reality is never that beautiful.
One will first fall in love, date, then finally get into sex. Or the other way round.
But by the time you establish if the other half is sexually compatible with you, by then you may have committed to much to do anything. You may have already live in. You may have already married him/her. You may have invested too much emotion.
And what do you do?
At first, you try to accommodate.
You try to enjoy the sex he/she likes.
You try to increase/decrease the quantity of sex from the amount you preferred.
So that you can stay together with him/her. Afterall, in a world with 7 billion homo sapiens, to find one whom you love and loves you is kinda hard.
But where do this leave you? And him/her?
I have seen many different endings.
And they all have one single trait, whether or not they end up together or separated.