Sometimes, Sex Scene Just Ruin It

First of all, i got nothing against having sex scene in a movie or music video or work of art. In fact, if it adds value to the art, it must be encouraged. For example, sex to show deep emotional attachment, to show human frailty, to even show humanity, and these should be encouraged and celebrated. Afterall, haven't we just done it all?

But sometimes, some directors just seems to be seeking some cheap thrill, adding sex scene just because they can, without bothering if it compatible with their work at all.

For example, this;



I had nothing against the sex scene somewhere in the middle of the MV. To tell a story in 4-5 minutes is a great challenge and using sex to portray deep emotional attachment is all right, though not creative.

But i have a great problem with the girl stripping for the two guys in the beginning of the MV. What the fuck? What does it try to tell? Great friendship between the three?

That is seriously a big big cheap thrill.

And consider this;



Shit! Is this a soft core porn or an MV? It did absolutely no justice to the vocal prowess of the singer. Just what does two people going to hotel to get some sex gotta do with the message of the song?

Now, to show how it is done, let us see my idol David Tao's MV;



It shows very little flesh, but essentially capturing all sexual tension between the three main characters. The loneliness and emotional breakdown of the innocent wife cleverly portrayed. The conflicting and suicidal emotion of the vivacious "other woman" due to the love triangle can really make you feel for her. And the adulterer David Tao, well, he better off going back singing.

My point is, to use sex, the best is to use it subtly, seemlessly, and the most importantly, is to do so with a purpose, or the sex will just ruin the whole thing.

What do you think? You have any other videos that uses sex?

Men Unable to Express Emotions?

We often hear, couple complaining they are not communicating enough.

More often girls though. The guys seems to be having a big problem opening their mouth. Sad.

But just, why?

Guys are having a hard time opening themselves up. They cannot bitch their heart out. They cannot cry. They cannot even express how they feel.

Ego? Maybe.

Or maybe it is due to upbringing. They are told to literally "take it like a man". They are told that expressing how they feel is sissy. And tears, well, that is just a sin.

In short, they are being told, from young, being a man means emotions are to be discarded.

How to communicate with them? How to loosen them out? How to get into their inner world?

No, i am not talking about sex again, though it might helps.

Seriously, i do not know how. But once you get them to talk, it is really heart wrenching. Suddenly, the bright smiles seems to bitter, hiding all the pain inside.

But talk it slowly. They will talk, eventually, when they are loosen enough. But brace yourself for it, it may not be pretty, for you or him.

How To Finger Your Girl

Having sex, making love, whatever you call it, is about giving pleasure to the other party.

And here is another part of "how to" to give more pleasure to a girl, and its called "fingering".

Fingering normally refers to touching the pussy of a girl to give her pleasure. The movement normally involves using the fingers to stroke certain parts, and hence the name fingering.

So how to do it right?

From personal experience, the best way to approach a girl sexually applies to all her body part - slowly and gradually.

Pet her mound gentle and lovingly, and slowly move your fingers down to her labia. Yes, not the clit.

Then, pet the surrounding areas gently and slowly. You can trace her outline with your finger.

Never touch the clit, to add the excitement when you finally do.

Then, move your finger circling her clit, and finally stroke her clit in circular motion. This motion seems to be the most pleasurable ones. Wet the clit with her vagina fluid to add sensitivity.

Enjoy the moans.

And next, the g-spot.

Slowly slide down from her clit until you finds the opening of her vagina. slowly slide in you finger and use the "come here" style to find her g-spot. It is normally situated on the top wall of her vagina and its not deep. Very near to the opening in fact.

The texture of g-spot can be easily contracted with the rest of the vagina wall. The rest of it should be smooth but the g-spot is rougher.

Stroke the g-spot in the "come here" style, gently of course.

but every woman is different. While the above can be said as generally applicable, your girl's needs may be different. For example, she may like it rough and need not foreplay like this. In any case, look for her reaction and open your mouth, to ask her.

Treat your ladies right and enjoy!

House Visits

Going into someone's house, catching a glimpse at their personal life, may prove to be a gratifying experience.

Yea, you can imagine/wonder how their sex life is too.

Going into someone's house got me wondering, how is their life?

Do they wake up in the morning, rush and jam to work, wait for lunch, then wait for 5pm, then jam all the way back home to a waiting lonely house longing to speak?

Then have a shower, slouch on a couch watching TV? Or blogging? Or facebooking?

Will the wife start nagging on how lazy the husband is, how naughty the children are and gossip on how much the husband of the madam next door earns?

Will the husband purposely come back late to escape all the naggings and have a few beers and a football match?

Will the sex then turn dry?

Or will the couple gone back lovingly, have a bath together and fuck themselves crazy?

Or when the children are asleep, the mom and pop then chasing back the romance lost due to family life?

Ahhh...there is so much to wonder on a house visit.

Sex As Bargaining Tool

Many people do use sex as bargaining tool, knowingly and unknowingly. And women seems to be the greatest offender, as men seems to be unable to live without sex.

Examples of sex as bargaining tool are such as sex in exchange of some present, sex in exchange for the man to do something, sex in exchange for the man to not to do something and many more.

It also include "do it and you get great sex. don't do it, you get a dead log'.

Personally i despise these sex manipulators. Are you prostitute or something? Sex should be something natural and enjoyable for the partners, not as a currency to exchange goods or services.

If the other party still have to sort of "pay" for the sex, why not he/she just go for professional services, which in all case gives better sex?

And a relationship where sex is used as bargaining tool will not last. It causes frustration to the one being used. Why get upset over something so basic? Just get a new one would be easier.

If the manipulator would like to lower him/herself to the level of a prostitute, then you will be one - totally dispensable when you are out of favor.

There is always someone better.

Get rid of your manipulating man/woman.

Good Sex, Bad Sex

What is a good sex?

i think the only logical definition of it is when you and your partner are into the session and both of you fuck each other's brain out.

Bad sex?

When one party is interested while the other just going through the motion.

Very bad sex?

When both parties just going through the motion.

I would rather not have sex if it is not good. No point.

Shit, why do you have sex if you are just going through the motion?

Tit Torture : An Introduction

For the uninitiated, tit torture is was its name denote, torture the tit.

Now, before anyone crying "sick psyco", let me just say that some people, yes, some people, got sexual gratification from delivering pain and receiving pain to their breast. Yes, this apparently sick people, who might not be so sick after all, enjoy being hurt on their breast and some enjoyed hurting some other people's breast.

How to do it?

There are many methods to torture a tit. Each and every method merits an article on its own (if were to really talk about it) so i would just list them out.

For the "light" ones, there can be biting, pinching, twisting (the nipple) and these are what couples normally do, and yes, those are tit torture, i think. Do the ladies enjoy the pain? Yes they do if you do it right.

For heavier ones, there are bondage (binding the breast, using tape, ropes etc), flagging/spanking (using hand, cane etc), clamping (using clothespins, nipple clamp) are the usual methods. Now, these are something that might cause permanent damage and i am in no way endorsing any of them. Just for sexual knowledge, you know.

And those really heavy ones would be electric shock (on the breast, normally the nipple), piercing, suspension (suspend the body by the breast), chemical play, abrasion (using sandpaper etc), plants and animal play (like using a beetle to sting the nipple). These are all crazy stuff and not for the faint hearted. I would say these are for the professionals who knew how to handle it and not for normal human who seek usual sexual gratification. If you need some diversions from the normal sex, don't do these.

Why People Do It?

Now, for those who are first timer in this term, after just reading the methods, they would ask again, why the hell anyone would want to do that?

The simple answer would be, some enjoy the hurt and some enjoy hurting. Supply and demand, dude.

And i think, at least for the heavier ones, they are normally not used in real life. Normally only porn has it that the breast are ravaged that way, and get this, porn is never real, though you can obviously see the injuries, nothing good that you should put on your missus.

Don't Try This At Home

There is nothing wrong if you wanna bite your missus breast, or if you want your man to bite your breast. By all means, go for it. Afterall, it may prove enjoyable for both of you.

But while you are graduating from the normal pinching to clothespins, just bear in mind that the breast ultimately hung on the missus chest. It will still hang there after all the beatings you put to it. So don't let the excitement carry you away. Love the ladies, treasure their bodies.

And as a personal advice, don't do the heavy stuff at home. Unless you are already an expert in it.

Conclusion

Some people might like the idea of tit torture without really carrying out. It is normal. Fantasy and reality don't always mix though it would be great if they do.

You might like to watch tit torture porn, but when it comes to real life, just remember that the breast still hung on the ladies chest.

If you really need one, try get professional service, but then again, you must bear in mind the consequences. The law on this matter differs by jurisdiction and surely you don't wanna run afoul the law.

Till then, stay tune for more sexual discussions, and som advanced articles on tit torture.