Why are you even asking?

Today, i had a dinner with the girl whom very recently became my ex. She was supposed to hand me my stuffs i left in the apartment we very recently shared together in.

We tried to create a semblance of conversation.

We tried to create a semblance of a meal together.

And we both seem more like playing our part, rushing through the motion, in a badly written script.

But i don't know what struck her, when she ask "So, where are you going for your holiday?"

Why do you even ask?

When half a year ago, you told me we are going somewhere together to indulge ourselves to the fullest. And we were talking about this island and that island, this hill and that mountain.

Then 2 months ago, you told me you might not be able to have a holiday with me as you are not likely to get a long leave, and whatever short leave you get, you rather not travel.

And weeks ago, you dumped me.

Can't you see that you are just being cruel, to me whom my love was returned with betrayal?

What do I Really Want in a Relationship, In Love, Is Actually Nothing

The Valentine's Day is coming in a few hours. It "was" a day to remember St. Valentine, which later turns to a day to cherish love, then a day for businesses to earn enormous dough.

Nevermind that.

Valentine's, if it is a day to cherish love, then maybe we should look at what love really is. But this is too hard even for the most experienced lovers. So, maybe next time.

For me, for a relationship to work, then love must be there. But for the love to continue to burn, it requires more than just a few candles on the Valentine's. It requires us to know what our other half really wants. What our other half really need.

My love often lament that she can never get a gift that i really like. And that i can never tell her what i had wanted.

But in reality, i wanted nothing that money can buy. I don't need anything that i already cannot get. There is no gift that a shop can offer me.

What i wanted is for my love to be beside me all the time.

For me to feel comfortable in her embrace.

For me to feel at home all the time i am with her.

For her to understand my feeling.

When i am happy, i just wanted to tell her and let her know.

When i am sad, all she need to do is just to pull me into her bosom, no words needed.

there is nothing that you need to give me, except to be with me, without condition, but with love.

i really, really, don't need anything else, because all that i really need, you have given me...

and love from you, is all i need.

Happy Valentine's Day, everyone...hopefully you have a Love to cherish, for eternity..

The Changes After Marriage

"Men marry women with the hope that they will never change. Women marry men with the hope that they will change. Invariably, they are both disappointed"

Albert Einstein

Some guys just know everything, and Einstein is one of them.

Wait wait, not talking about Einstein today.

Now you see, many men after getting their asses into a marriage, found themselves sharing the same whine in the bar - my wife is not what they used to be while we were dating.

When we were dating, she doesn't have this much demand.

When we were dating, she doesn't nag.

When we were dating, she doesn't mind my job/salary.

When we were dating, she doesn't mind i watch football in the bar.

And the classic one - when we were dating, she doesn't have so much headache.

Baahhh.........

But mind you, the women when having their "women only" meet up, will also have some complaints.

My husband never tidy up the bed.

My husband never help with housework/pick out the trash.

My husband job is not enough for our dream (her dream maybe?)/took too much of his time and he just refuse to change a job.

The football is more important to him than me.

He only wanted to screw. I wonder if he loves me or my body.

Hmm..

Actually, complaints do came by when a couple passed the courting stage and into a serious relationship. Maybe Einstein's time the people are more conservative.

But what everyone need to accept is, when a relationship evolve into the next level, some changes are inevitable.

We can only do our best to understand each other and accept the preferences and aspirations of each other.

But you wanted him/her to be a person he/she never was, why not get another one who really suits you? Though i will admit many people conceal who they really are during courtship and not being frank.

Maybe that is why, there are so many divorces.

A Woman Who Loves Sex is Ten Times Better Than a Hot Beautiful Woman Who Doesn't

Let me just add, an ordinary looking woman who loves sex is at the very least ten times better than a hot woman who doesn't.

Simple reason - we men loves sex, or maybe only man like me do!

What's the point of an absolutely hot lady when you can only fuck a few times a month? Or less?

No, i am not fond of a trophy to show off.

And men need sex to feel love. Without sex, we felt unloved.

Don't use the women logic on this (women have sex when they felt love, complete opposite, and even that, some are not so interested), but accept that there are differences between the gender.

For me, you can look ordinary but as long as you love sex and provides good one (together with good attitude), then you are on as the candidate for the best life partner.

(picture from www.rd.com)

Now, doesn't the above picture feels absolutely good?

Woman Wacking Man's Private Part in Public

There are a few things i wanted to write about, but this, i think, should go first.

I remember reading about the news piece a few days ago, and dismissing it as another weird human behaviour.

But then again, this will make for a great (almost) sexological discussion.

'Nuff said, let's see what's the real stuff.

A woman whacking a man's private part in the public?

Are they into BDSM or something?

Whatever it is, now the plate number can be seen all over the world. The girl and the guy's face, though unclear, can be basically made out, if with the car.

And worse, all of their friends now knew of this, whoever the car belongs to.

Bow, there is nothing wrong to be into BDSM. There is nothing wrong for the girl to be the dominant one in the relationship.

There is absolutely noting wrong with liking to whack private parts.

But this is very wrong - losing it in the public.

Whatever had happened, arguing, quarelling in the public is always bad. Making yourself look very very bad.

And the worse is scolding your partner. How is he or she going to face the public?

But nothing beats this. Hitting private part with high heels, grabbing, and squeezing it, hitting his face with heels again, and being recorded and uploaded to YouTube for all to see is the height of impropriety. Life can never be the same again for both of them. They are both screwed.

The rule of thumb in a relationship always remain this - never let it out in the public. You can quarrel, argue, scold, throw things, even hitting private parts if that is the way you work it out in your relationship. But do it in the comfort of your home. Where you can both let it out. There is no need for all to see, and no need to show prowess. If the relationship is between two (or more) persons, let it be that way, whatever happens.

Screwed.

Anyway out?

Why not the couple just claim that it was a hoax and just to test YouTube's following in Singapore?

Men's Feeling

Women tends to just bitch their heart out, while men just bottle them up.

Bad for heart, will get too stressed, then heart attack, those guys i mean.

Even in a relationship, DarkSnow will also just keep quiet, perhaps hoping that it will go away that way, or perhaps just doesn't want to talk about it.

But even DS does not know why, nor he knows how. DS sometimes wanted to cry, just why can't she understand? Just why can't she just treat me nice? Just why can't she just keep her temper? Just why can't she just be a good girl and not throwing tantrum at every moment, right and wrong?

Gals will defend gals and guys will defend guys but this is not the kind of reasoning i want. The kind that just normally thrown out across gender lines.

DS wanted something that cut across gender line, to give an unbias appreciation as to why, these two types of homo sapiens, are so different that as they became more sophisticated, the differene became more pronounce and we just thought, well, maybe its best that we just keep at arms length, but at the same time, wanted to get closer.

i am very sad and confuse now. i just got my brain screwed.

Men Unable to Express Emotions?

We often hear, couple complaining they are not communicating enough.

More often girls though. The guys seems to be having a big problem opening their mouth. Sad.

But just, why?

Guys are having a hard time opening themselves up. They cannot bitch their heart out. They cannot cry. They cannot even express how they feel.

Ego? Maybe.

Or maybe it is due to upbringing. They are told to literally "take it like a man". They are told that expressing how they feel is sissy. And tears, well, that is just a sin.

In short, they are being told, from young, being a man means emotions are to be discarded.

How to communicate with them? How to loosen them out? How to get into their inner world?

No, i am not talking about sex again, though it might helps.

Seriously, i do not know how. But once you get them to talk, it is really heart wrenching. Suddenly, the bright smiles seems to bitter, hiding all the pain inside.

But talk it slowly. They will talk, eventually, when they are loosen enough. But brace yourself for it, it may not be pretty, for you or him.

Sex As Bargaining Tool

Many people do use sex as bargaining tool, knowingly and unknowingly. And women seems to be the greatest offender, as men seems to be unable to live without sex.

Examples of sex as bargaining tool are such as sex in exchange of some present, sex in exchange for the man to do something, sex in exchange for the man to not to do something and many more.

It also include "do it and you get great sex. don't do it, you get a dead log'.

Personally i despise these sex manipulators. Are you prostitute or something? Sex should be something natural and enjoyable for the partners, not as a currency to exchange goods or services.

If the other party still have to sort of "pay" for the sex, why not he/she just go for professional services, which in all case gives better sex?

And a relationship where sex is used as bargaining tool will not last. It causes frustration to the one being used. Why get upset over something so basic? Just get a new one would be easier.

If the manipulator would like to lower him/herself to the level of a prostitute, then you will be one - totally dispensable when you are out of favor.

There is always someone better.

Get rid of your manipulating man/woman.